It's good to know what people find off putting about you because it's happening anyway

So it’s hard to hear, but the reality is it’s happening anyway. It’s not as if you can just avoid it, and you know that somebody’s kind of rubbing your nose in it.

You may not want to confront it, but it’s there anyway. Not confronting it is then the least efficient option to confronting it (or alternatively, ignoring it or disregarding it).

Reminds me of the idea that Not getting medical tests done because you're scared is inefficient because it's happening anyway

From This Jungian Life